Stop Walking on eggshells

STOP WALKING EGGSHELLS

Acknowledgments ix
Prologue xiii

INTRODUCTION
Intimate Strangers : How This Book Came to Be ……………….. 1
PART 1
UNDERSTANDING BPD BEHAVIOR

CHAPTER 1
Walking on Eggshells : Does Someone You Care About Have BPD ? … 9

CHAPTER 2
The Inner World of the Borderline : Defining BPD …………. 21

CHAPTER 3
Making Sense of Chaos: Understanding BPD Behavior ……. 49

CHAPTER 4
Living in a Pressure Cooker : How BPD Behavior Affect Non-BPs ….. 67

PART 2
TAKING BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

CHAPTER 5
Making Changes Within Yourself …………………….. 83

CHAPTER 6
Understanding Your Situation : Setting Boundaries and Honing Skills 107

CHAPTER 7
Asserting Your Needs with Confidence and Clarity ………… 135

CHAPTER 8
Creating a Safety Plan ………………………………………… 159

CHAPTER 9
Protecting Children from BPD Behavior ………………………. 177




PART 3
RESOLVING SPECIAL ISSUES

CHAPTER 10
Waiting for the Next Shoe to Drop : Your Borderline Child ……. 199

CHAPTER 11
Lies , Rumors , and Accusations : Distortion Campaigns ………… 213

CHAPTER 12
What Now ? Making Decisions About Your Relationship ………. 225



APPENDIX A
Causes and Treatment of BPD …………………………… 237

APPENDIX B
Practicing Mindfulness …………………………… 243

APPENDIX C
Reading List and Resources ………………………….. 247



References ………………………………………………. 257